Have you ever been to a 21st birthday party or is it just a South African thing? Particularly, a Black South African thing? My family couldn’t afford to throw me a big party when I turned 21 but I was invited to a few and I attended them all. The…

A friend once passionately said “I will never date a Republican”! I was familiar with American politics at this point, I’d even chosen a side. I imagined myself as an American, what experiences I would have had if I was African American, and upon that I concluded; if I was…

I have always struggled with the definition of a stepparent. What does it truly mean to be someone’s stepparent! I did what all smart people do…I googled the definition of a stepparent and this is what I found. It’s pretty simple really, a stepparent is a spouse of someone’s parent…

The lady preaching at the Sunday night service during our annual church conference is a tall, dark skinned woman, from Zimbabwe, could be Zambia, I’m not sure but definitely one of the African countries that start with Z. She walks up the stage, I mean pulpit, with a stride and…

This popped in my head WHILE I was meditating — which is insane because I meditate to bring positivity and calmness in my life. But, here I am, listening to the soothing voice of Deepak Chopra and all I can think about is “toxic positivity”. After the meditation, I uncontrollably…

Sex is very complicated for me. It is complicated and messy. Don’t get me wrong, the mechanics of sex are wonderful. I think I’m pretty well versed in the working of sex — but I don’t want to brag. I have been reflecting on the ways in which sex introduced…